Great Sex Secrets

How to do your own Sexam

Posted on: August 29, 2010

A:  Prepuce (Hood) of Clitoris

B:  Clitoris

C:  Opening of Urethra (urinary tract)

D:  Labia minora

E:  Labia majora

F:  Opening of Vagina

G:  Vestibule

H:  Hyman tissue (residual if any)

I:  Opening of Anus

  • Set a relaxed and quite mood with a flair of sensuality.
  • Arrange for  privacy, it would be hard to explain this to your neighbor or mother in law.
  • Wear a robe for easy access.
  • Get comfortable.
  • Be sure you have good lighting.
  • Have a bath first if you like…
  • Dry off

Let’s Begin!

  • Sit with your back against a pillow, knees propped up and your feet on the floor or bed. Or you can do this in a tub too If you have one large enough.
  • Spread your legs; use a hand mirror to see yourself. On my! What do you see?

So what exactly are you looking for? Everything of course:

  • Note the texture and color of the skin of each part.
  • If you’d like a more “slick” feeling, add a little lube as you touch.
  • You may want to experiment by using different props to touch yourself. For instance: a vibrator, feather, or any object you think you may respond to.
  • Using a finger, stroke each small area lightly. Keep track of what area and stroke feels best to you.

Let us now identify each of the following parts you will be examining:

Vulva is the name give to the whole area we are going to explore I am going to describe the main parts now. But know there are other glands, nooks and crannies you may need to be aware of at some point in your life.

Labia Majora – the outer lips of the labia actually it means “big lips.”

Labia Minora – Inner Labia or lips. And for the record, about 1/3 of the women have larger/longer or fuller inner lips than outer lips.

Clitoris – Small pea size button located at the top area where the labia meet. It is covered by a small piece of skin called the hood. This is similar to the foreskin in an uncircumsized man. This is the holy grail of nerve endings in women, and stimulating it generally provides most women with pleasureable feelings.

  • Move the hood of the clitoris back and forth over the glands.
  • Apply different types of pressure.
  • Pay attention to the fleshy area that surrounds the clitoris too.

Vulval vestibule is between the  labia minora and the vaginal opening.

Urethra – this is the opening where the urine passes out of the body and is located in the vestibule. Urine is a sterile system, so it is never a good idea to insert anything into the urethra.

Vagina – this is where you insert a tampon, where the baby comes out and where a penis would be inserted for vaginal sex. There is a whole treasure trove inside the vagina too. IF you are feeling like feeling around, insert a finger along the front side of the vaginal wall about 1 to 2 inches in, and you should be in the neighborhood of the G-spot. A little farther in in the same area should get you to the cervix. This is the opening to the uterus…however the opening is very tiny, about the size of a pencil point. Unless you are ready to give birth of course.

  • Place 2 fingers in the outer third of the vagina.
  • Try tightening your PC muscles (also known as Kegel exercises). Do this with two fingers inside.
  • Attempt to “suck in” your fingers into your vagina by pulling in with your muscles.
  • Try to force them out by bearing down.
  • Consider using a lubed speculum to insert into your vagina (cheap, plastic ones are easy to purchase).
  • Point a flashlight into your vagina, many of you will be able to see your cervix or at least your vaginal canal in the mirror.

Tip: feel the roof of your mouth vs the cheek. That is the difference you should feel when you hit the g spot vs regular vaginal wall tissue. To get an idea of what your cervix feels like, touch the tip of your nose. The cervix is firm and you will feel a little indent area where the opening is.

Perineum– is the official name for everything behind the vagina up to the

Anus – which is the opening for waste products to be eliminated from your body. That is where you might spot those hemorrhoids some day. The best thing to know about the anus is that it is very sensitive and some people like stimulation there. We will be devoting an entire podcast to back door fun and games in the near future.

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