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Males under the age of forty are typically able to achieve an erection in less than ten seconds. 75% of men ejaculate within three minutes pf penetration.  The initial spurt of ejaculate travels at 28 miles per hour. By way of comparison, the world record for the 100 yard dash is 27.1 miles per hour.

Studies have shown that men become sexually aroused nearly every time they dream.

The two leading causes of temporary impotence are prolonged cigarette smoking and tight pants.

An unobstructed penis is capable of shooting semen anywhere from 12 to 24 inches.

In general, showers are relaxing; but they can also be quite exciting –for instance – add your partner and a vibrating toy.

Preparing the bath  /duc 297

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Try this technique -vary the water temperature to find the combination that is the most exhilarating for you and your partner, like hot, then cold, and back to hot again, or any combination you can come up with. Enjoy exploring the way the water feels with vibrations on different parts of your bodies in relation to the temperature of the water. Our Velvet Curve is ideal for this kind of play! It is shaped kind of like a dental instrument and can hit all those nooks and crannies…

 

Bath Fun

The opportunities are endless for bath time fun, especially if you have a tub big enough for two.

Soak in a hot bath and let your toys help you relax.  Water carries the sound of vibrations — something to keep in mind if you have roommates or house guests. If you have a whirlpool, what a great time to run it!

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For some men, stimulation to the perineum will add to an overall pleasure picture. For others it will greatly increase sensations and/or improve orgasm.

I recently read about someone who referred to the perineum as her partners fast forward button. It increased his arousal level incredibly!!!

Arousing the perineum during oral sex is very easy. Using a small bullet style vibrator or our new Velvet Pleasure, which is shaped like a dental mirror, but vibrates and has a super soft and smooth feel with adjustable vibrations is a great way to hit the pleasure train.

During intercourse it can be a little more challenging, but not impossible. A female should be able to reach and massage or fondle the male perineum in a variety of different positions.

A couple other tips:

·       lube is a great accessory with any stimulation

·       be sure your nails are trimmed

·       since the anus is close by, be sure to be prepared for safe stimulation by using some type of barrier method… condom a finger, cut one in half to use like a dental dam for oral stimulation, or even saran wrap!

Histological section of prostate gland.

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Remember, for guys the prostate gland, also known as the male g-spot, the p-spot or the a-spot, is located just a little bit north of the perineum…sort of between the perineum and the anal canal. I know, a bad visual, but I bet you got the picture.

So what do you want to do with this little landing spot? 
Since some men find testicle stimulation to be a little TOO much, 
stimulation of the perineum is a good alternative. As I always recommend, 
if you decide to experiment with any new bedroom fun, be sure the avenues of 
communication are open. And while you are in the neighborhood, consider trying some of 
these moves on the penis, scrotum or anus too!
  •    licking
  • gently sucking (and no teeth unless specifically requested, and then only super gently)
  • fondle especially during intercourse!
  •  massage
  • vibration

Be gentle, use it lightly at first and allow your partner to get the feeling of the vibrations against sensitive areas like for a guy- behind his testicles or  gently along the shaft of his penis.  For the ladies, concentrate on the clitoris or the opening only of the vaginal canal. Remember, the majority of the nerve openings are in the first inch.

 Be flexible when introducing new toys. What you think might be a perfect toy may not work out for your partner. That’s perfectly ok; put that one aside, you can even save it for yourself, then try something different together.

Communicate and find out what your partner is curious about. Do a little research, and share your findings before you buy a new addition to your romantic life.  If you or your partner need some help in selecting something to help you put the old zsa zsa zsu back in your bedroom…or living room…or kitchen, well drop me a message.

I think A great introductory couples’ toy is a c-ring. Start out with a non-vibrating version, which maximizes your clitoral and labial stimulation. Communicate how the added sensations can enhance the experience.  Our Rocket Rings are top notch.

Another great beginner’s option is our Deluxe Love Smitten and a bullet vibrator. This gives you lots of options starting out with a wonderful stress busting massage…into a vibrating massage…into where ever you want your adventure to take you.

Eventually you may want to move into more powerful versions with attached bullets designed to stimulate both of you at the same time. My recommendation is The Progressor, my most popular multi function couples toy.   It is soft, stretchy with a removable bullet that has multiple speed and pattern settings for lots of fun, relaxing and stimulating play.  The Progressor (pictured above) is my #1 choice since is can be used alone, with vibration, you can separate the bullet and use it alone, and of course it can also be used as a G Spot Training wheel! (more on that later)

Taking a break from your normal routine and experiencing your lover in a new way can not only bring back the fire of when you first got together, it’s also a great time to spice up your love life with sensual enhancements.

Persuading your partner to try a sex toy is similar to coaxing them into anything new – sexual or not. Change can be unsettling, but sexual changes can be even more so because intimacy is so loaded with emotion.

Some men and women both may feel that if their partner wants to try a toy, it means their abilities or equipment are not satisfying. Reassure them that they is irreplaceable. Toys don’t kiss, cuddle or take out the garbage. But the can be good for enhancing what is already good and introducing some variety and spice to your sex life to ad even more pleasure. And there is nothing wrong with that!


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