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Did you know that dolphins are the only mammals, other than humans, that seek sex for pleasure, not just procreation? What better introduction to our topic for today. Waterproof toys!

Waterproof toys are stimulating, relaxing and enjoyable during solo play or as an enhancement to partner sex… in or out of water. Enjoy in the bedroom, shower, bathtub, hot tub, or if you really

feel adventurous — some can even be used in the ocean.

 

Now is the perfect time to add some of Passion Parties’ waterproof toys to your collection. Let me tell you some of the choices in waterproof toys, where and how to use them and how to take care of them.

Got Lube?

As with any passion toy, the first essential to playtime is lubricant. Most lubricants are water-based and water

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soluble; meaning they are designed to wash away with water for easy clean up. That’s why 100% silicone lubricant won’t wash away when you need it the most and will keep its consistency much better than water-based lubes in the shower or hot tub. Just be sure not to use it on silicone toys.

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Of course any pain should probably be checked out by a doctor…so that is always my first recommendation.

But assuming everything is AOK  my first thought is to be sure there has been adequate foreplay so her body is ready for lovemaking. For some women, the cervix is more prominent in the vaginal canal…and when she becomes aroused, the pelvic area muscles tighten and actually lift the cervix out of the canal a bit. That is a good reason not to rush too quickly into intercourse itself.

Of course, Just about every can benefit from using a personal lubricant from time to time. So that is another option to consider.

And a final thought…some partners just don’t fit together well. If your package is bigger than she can handle…you can try some different positions where penetration is not as deep…or add a bumper guard. We have several customers use our Gigi this way. The trim it for the fit they want and that way he gets the feeling of deep penetration, but the bumper guard protects her from penetration too deeply. More on this coming… and you will too! 🙂

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First of all, anal is not for everyone. It looks like ¼ to 1/3 of us are probably enjoying and engaging in occasional to more often anal play or intercourse, regardless of what our sexual orientation is. So lots of us are experimenting. So in case you are wondering why I have been spending so much time on this topic, I want you to be as safe as possible, have as much info as you want and decide what makes sense for you. But no matter what, knowledge is power! But (fetish aside) actual anal intercourse (penis in anus) is probably the least practiced method of back door fun.

So how do we get on with enjoying the anal playground?

Here are some of the secrets, if you want to give it a try there are several things to know and prepare.

1.    you need lots of lubrication

2.   penetration is optional

3.   relaxation is key

4.   action should be slow

5.   pain means stop

6.   safety is sexy

7.   condoms are cool

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Foreplay= stimulation for pleasure

Sex= penetration

From a health perspective, there are a few things you need to prepare before knocking on the back door at all.

1.    Cleanliness

a.   Area must be clean – women should always wash from front to back away from the vaginal area, then pat dry. Bacteria thrives on warm wet place so don’t give them the chance.

b.   Clear the canal depending on how far you want to go

c.   Some people like to use a cleansing douche – that is optional. For some this spoils the fun because they are looking to be a little dirty.

2.   Condoms

a.   Can help prevent the rectal tissue from tearing

b.   It makes entry much more comfortable since the tissue is naturally dry and sensitive

c.   Condoms Hold lube better

d.   They can help prevent disease – not just herpes or HIV, but cross contamination.

3.   Lube Lube Lube

a.   No much is too much is the rule with lube

b.   Thicker water based products seem to work best.

c.    We also have a silicone lube that some people just love called Slip n Slide. It is not to be used with latex condoms, so you would have to get an alternative. The feel of silicone lube is velvety soft, and it lasts for a long long time, but clean up is a little more work, as it should be washed with soap and water afterward.

So what is it that makes Anal play so pleasurable?

There are lots of nerve endings… The clitoris has about the same number of nerve endings as the anus. It is all about allowing yourself to relax so you can feel good

Communication is the most important tool you have. It is hard to talk about your fantasies, especially if they involve a sneak attack to the back door. So how do you ask to explore?  Here are some tips to help you bring this up.

Guys,  Reassure your partner. Do your homework. Be safe. Have fun and relax and above all, let her know she can trust you. And since the anus is highly sensitive, it can double her pleasure!

Ladies, how do you bring this out without making your partner feel uncomfortable?  Remind him, it is not a gay or straight thing. There are as many nerve endings in the anus as there are in the clitoris. Why would he want to miss out on that much pleasure. It is also the pathway to the male g-spot or A spot a/k/a the prostate and it is a major pleasure zone for many guys.

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So your partner said yes, now what do you do????

Your home work of course! You have already talked about it, so you have an idea what is ok and not ok. But here are some ideas…

Anal intercourse is the least frequently practiced form of anal sex, so don’t start there…

The most common techniques include

  • Touching or massaging the anal opening
  • touching the anal opening with a finger while masturbating
  • touching a partner’s anus during oral sex
  • stimulating a partner’s anus during intercourse
  • inserting a lubricated and condomed finger inserted into the anal opening and gently rotate
  • insertion of a lubricated dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including heterosexuals, favor this form of penetration because it stimulates the A-spot, male G-spot or prostate.

Lets review a few important points about back door play again….

  • talk about it a lot before you try it
  • Let the receiver dictate the action and intensity
  • experiment slowly with fingers and small toys
  • remember lots and lots of lube!!!
  • Don’t be pushy unless you are asked for it
  • Don’t be disappointed if the first few times it doesn’t end up in the end the way you wanted it…good connections take time to develop
  • Don’t give up – it takes time to build up trust
  • Be gentle and supportive.
  • Learn to relax and enjoy Relaxation – mentally, emotionally and physically will allow more pleasure to flow to all areas including the anal area. Go slow, take deep breaths and allow your body to relax and warm up.



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Start with cunnilingus…and a finger

The very very best way to go about anal – if you decide it is something you even want to try – is to begin orally with the clitoris. For women, anal stimulation during oral can give twice the sensation since twice the nerve endings are involved.

Guys tip, always be sure your nails are trimmed and filed. Of course you will want to both be relaxed. Place a condom over your finger and lube both the condom and the anus.

While orally stimulating the clitoris, gently start around the edges of the anus…where a lot of those nerve endings are. Many women will find this the mother lode of pleasure. Make a small O around the edges, no insertion, use firm pressure. This is a tease. Make it last as long as you can until she makes the first move.

Let it be her decision if there is to be any insertion…but for women most of the foreplay is building the anticipation. If there is any insertion, she will decide how deep how far, how fast and how long.  The key is to build anticipation and let her set the pace and the path.

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Anal Intercourse
Many men and women are curious about anal sex but are scared about comfort and safety issues. If you are curious, start slow and work toward the most satisfying ending you can. And of course all the previous rules of safety apply. Relax, communicate, lubricate, condom.

The rectum is not straight like the vagina. After entering the anus there is a short anal canal which connects the anus to the rectum.  The rectum tilts toward the front of the body for a few inches, then it curves back sharply — sometimes as much as 90 degrees. After a few more inches, it turns back toward the front of the body again.

A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose your grip, it won’t slip into the rectum and become irretrievable.  I am sure you have heard those stories from friends who work in hospitals. As a retired nurse, I can tell you that most of them are true…so don’t be one of those statistics!

Position for Pleasure

• Try a variety of Positions for anal intercourse to see what suits you best.

• Side by side or spooning is often best for beginners. It Gives receiver the most control over penetration.

• Missionary man on top face to face Provides for more intimacy and easier communication for some.

• Rear entry or doggy style allows for deepest penetration. The anus is the most exposed, often making thrusting easier.


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