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If you ever find your self feeling a little down, in a rut, if the sizzle has fizzled or the grind is getting to you, all you have to do is pull out your personalized romantic memoirs and let them take you away, back to the best sexual and sensual experiences of your life. This would make a super exciting gift for your partner on so many levels! I bet just giving the gift of a record of your hottest sex encounters will lead to a whole other chapter in and of itself!

So lets get started.

Here are some mind joggers to help you create your blazing hot romantamemory book. Portions of this list have been taken from the Art of Seduction by Hugh DeBeer

PLACES – describe in detail, use pictures, souvenirs, scents or anything to help you bring back the memories of your best session…

In bed

In the car

In the kitchen

Outside

In the most unusual place

In the riskiest place

 

Special Times

First time together

Anniversary

Birthday

Best costumes

 

Techniques Positions and Physical Prowess

Best Dominant

Best submissive

Best kiss

Most athletic

Most consecutive orgasms

Most memorable sexual awakening

Wildest sex ever

Most interesting position

Most bizarre

Most loving

The highest energy

 

Toys and Accessories

Best sex toy

Favorite lotion

Favorite lube

Favorite Video

Favorite erotic story or book

Wish List

Positions

Locations

Toys and accessories

Fantasy

Other

 

Personal Best

Rate them all and then pick  your favorites.

As you can see this will be a work in progress. You should continue to add to your Best Sex Book, and refer to it often too!

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Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Sexual Fantasies (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Numerical Sex Positions

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Challenge time!

See how many different sexual positions you can achieve with your partner in 5 minutes. This is to test your creativity.

Plans before expansion in the 18th century.

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Challenge time!

Want to have some real fun? For the next 6 weeks, your goal is to make love a different way every time! Change rooms, change positions, add something new, play a game…and keep a little log of all the new exciting things you do.

 

French Kiss

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A first kiss can be a great indicator of what is to come in a relationship. It is a great way to sense if that magical attraction between you. Watch for fireworks, butterflies I the stomach and all those fun signs.  An added note, wear those pheromones for extra oomph.

 

There are many types of kisses from light sweet angel kisses, to hickey kisses. All over kisses to kisses focused on one area. Kisses with tongue, with sucking, with licking, with flavors, and fantasies and more. You can celebrate, surprise, say hello or goodby or good morning and so much more with a kiss. But of all the kisses, the most misunderstood seems to be the illusive French kiss.

French Kissing Basics from Sacha Tarkovsky
The lips are one of the most important erogenous zones for both men and women and the power of a good kiss is neatly summed in the following quote:

The French kiss is romantic and a great start to foreplay as well. It is a fantastic way for you to express your feelings, emotions and desire and an erotic ad fun way to fill both you and your partner with passion and desire.

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Of course any pain should probably be checked out by a doctor…so that is always my first recommendation.

But assuming everything is AOK  my first thought is to be sure there has been adequate foreplay so her body is ready for lovemaking. For some women, the cervix is more prominent in the vaginal canal…and when she becomes aroused, the pelvic area muscles tighten and actually lift the cervix out of the canal a bit. That is a good reason not to rush too quickly into intercourse itself.

Of course, Just about every can benefit from using a personal lubricant from time to time. So that is another option to consider.

And a final thought…some partners just don’t fit together well. If your package is bigger than she can handle…you can try some different positions where penetration is not as deep…or add a bumper guard. We have several customers use our Gigi this way. The trim it for the fit they want and that way he gets the feeling of deep penetration, but the bumper guard protects her from penetration too deeply. More on this coming… and you will too! 🙂

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Foreplay= stimulation for pleasure

Sex= penetration

From a health perspective, there are a few things you need to prepare before knocking on the back door at all.

1.    Cleanliness

a.   Area must be clean – women should always wash from front to back away from the vaginal area, then pat dry. Bacteria thrives on warm wet place so don’t give them the chance.

b.   Clear the canal depending on how far you want to go

c.   Some people like to use a cleansing douche – that is optional. For some this spoils the fun because they are looking to be a little dirty.

2.   Condoms

a.   Can help prevent the rectal tissue from tearing

b.   It makes entry much more comfortable since the tissue is naturally dry and sensitive

c.   Condoms Hold lube better

d.   They can help prevent disease – not just herpes or HIV, but cross contamination.

3.   Lube Lube Lube

a.   No much is too much is the rule with lube

b.   Thicker water based products seem to work best.

c.    We also have a silicone lube that some people just love called Slip n Slide. It is not to be used with latex condoms, so you would have to get an alternative. The feel of silicone lube is velvety soft, and it lasts for a long long time, but clean up is a little more work, as it should be washed with soap and water afterward.

So what is it that makes Anal play so pleasurable?

There are lots of nerve endings… The clitoris has about the same number of nerve endings as the anus. It is all about allowing yourself to relax so you can feel good

Communication is the most important tool you have. It is hard to talk about your fantasies, especially if they involve a sneak attack to the back door. So how do you ask to explore?  Here are some tips to help you bring this up.

Guys,  Reassure your partner. Do your homework. Be safe. Have fun and relax and above all, let her know she can trust you. And since the anus is highly sensitive, it can double her pleasure!

Ladies, how do you bring this out without making your partner feel uncomfortable?  Remind him, it is not a gay or straight thing. There are as many nerve endings in the anus as there are in the clitoris. Why would he want to miss out on that much pleasure. It is also the pathway to the male g-spot or A spot a/k/a the prostate and it is a major pleasure zone for many guys.

Illustration of anal sex.

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So your partner said yes, now what do you do????

Your home work of course! You have already talked about it, so you have an idea what is ok and not ok. But here are some ideas…

Anal intercourse is the least frequently practiced form of anal sex, so don’t start there…

The most common techniques include

  • Touching or massaging the anal opening
  • touching the anal opening with a finger while masturbating
  • touching a partner’s anus during oral sex
  • stimulating a partner’s anus during intercourse
  • inserting a lubricated and condomed finger inserted into the anal opening and gently rotate
  • insertion of a lubricated dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including heterosexuals, favor this form of penetration because it stimulates the A-spot, male G-spot or prostate.

Lets review a few important points about back door play again….

  • talk about it a lot before you try it
  • Let the receiver dictate the action and intensity
  • experiment slowly with fingers and small toys
  • remember lots and lots of lube!!!
  • Don’t be pushy unless you are asked for it
  • Don’t be disappointed if the first few times it doesn’t end up in the end the way you wanted it…good connections take time to develop
  • Don’t give up – it takes time to build up trust
  • Be gentle and supportive.
  • Learn to relax and enjoy Relaxation – mentally, emotionally and physically will allow more pleasure to flow to all areas including the anal area. Go slow, take deep breaths and allow your body to relax and warm up.




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