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For some men, stimulation to the perineum will add to an overall pleasure picture. For others it will greatly increase sensations and/or improve orgasm.

I recently read about someone who referred to the perineum as her partners fast forward button. It increased his arousal level incredibly!!!

Arousing the perineum during oral sex is very easy. Using a small bullet style vibrator or our new Velvet Pleasure, which is shaped like a dental mirror, but vibrates and has a super soft and smooth feel with adjustable vibrations is a great way to hit the pleasure train.

During intercourse it can be a little more challenging, but not impossible. A female should be able to reach and massage or fondle the male perineum in a variety of different positions.

A couple other tips:

·       lube is a great accessory with any stimulation

·       be sure your nails are trimmed

·       since the anus is close by, be sure to be prepared for safe stimulation by using some type of barrier method… condom a finger, cut one in half to use like a dental dam for oral stimulation, or even saran wrap!

Muscles of the male perineum

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Hot tip for the guys -dont over look the labia! As women get aroused, the labia also fills with blood, along with all her other special parts. Then the lips become extra sensitive. Try licking the labia, gently sucking, or touching them while you manually stimulate the clitoris for extra sensation if she likes it.

On men, the perineum is that little piece of real estate located behind the testicles and before the anus that no one really knows what to do with. It has lots of different names, including

·       the taint – it taint butt and taint balls

·       The tween –it is tween the balls and the hole or

·       twixt the sack and the crack

·       The Chode is sometimes used, although chode can also be used for a very short thick penis, as well as a word for fornication itself.

·       gooch,

·       grundle

Sagittal section of the lower part of a female...

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Taint Tween Chode? What exactly is it? What do I do with it?

Ladies: Have you touched your partner in that special place lately? If you haven’t you just might be missing out on some super excitement! So what am I talking about? The Perineum of course.

We all have one.
It is rich in nerves and has great potential to be aroused during fore-play and intercourse.On the ladies it is behind the vaginal opening and before the anus.

Or as I heard it at one of my parties, if its between the ‘giney and the heinie or Ain’t her cooter, ain’t her pooter. And while it is a pleasure area for women, we would probably get better benefit from stimulation to other areas like: clitoris, g spot, vaginal opening or anal opening.

Be gentle, use it lightly at first and allow your partner to get the feeling of the vibrations against sensitive areas like for a guy- behind his testicles or  gently along the shaft of his penis.  For the ladies, concentrate on the clitoris or the opening only of the vaginal canal. Remember, the majority of the nerve openings are in the first inch.

 Be flexible when introducing new toys. What you think might be a perfect toy may not work out for your partner. That’s perfectly ok; put that one aside, you can even save it for yourself, then try something different together.

Communicate and find out what your partner is curious about. Do a little research, and share your findings before you buy a new addition to your romantic life.  If you or your partner need some help in selecting something to help you put the old zsa zsa zsu back in your bedroom…or living room…or kitchen, well drop me a message.

I think A great introductory couples’ toy is a c-ring. Start out with a non-vibrating version, which maximizes your clitoral and labial stimulation. Communicate how the added sensations can enhance the experience.  Our Rocket Rings are top notch.

Another great beginner’s option is our Deluxe Love Smitten and a bullet vibrator. This gives you lots of options starting out with a wonderful stress busting massage…into a vibrating massage…into where ever you want your adventure to take you.

Eventually you may want to move into more powerful versions with attached bullets designed to stimulate both of you at the same time. My recommendation is The Progressor, my most popular multi function couples toy.   It is soft, stretchy with a removable bullet that has multiple speed and pattern settings for lots of fun, relaxing and stimulating play.  The Progressor (pictured above) is my #1 choice since is can be used alone, with vibration, you can separate the bullet and use it alone, and of course it can also be used as a G Spot Training wheel! (more on that later)

Start by talking about toys and your curiosity to try them with your partner. The reality of sex toys may be a bit overwhelming, so don’t pressure your partner.

 

Men sometimes think that a sex toy will replace them – ladies, you can respond by asking him if masturbation makes him desire you any less. The obvious answer is no, it doesn’t. Just listen to him and consider his feelings. He might not be willing now, but you’ve opened the door and if he’s even slightly curious, he’ll be thinking about it. Remember, greater communication usually equals greater sex.

Let your partner watch you with your toy and encourage them to use it with you.

Feel free to be the narrator and help your partner out by telling him what to do, where to put it, and how it feels. That can be so sexy all by itself. Eventually, try to use the toy together.

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This is not usually a question your friendly neighborhood Passion Consultant answers…but I checked with the CDC and referring sites…and here is the bad news.

The only 100% effective method is abstinence.

The most popular methods of birth control listed at the CDC include:

Women-Birth Control pills, Injections, Implants, Iud, Diaphragm, cervical cap, Female Condom,

Male- Condom

Both- Withdrawal, rhythm method

Other than withdrawal, technically known as coitus interruptus…

the rest of the methods can prevent pregnancy when used regularly and properly. Keep in mind that the rhythm method aka natural family planning does take a high degree of motivation and dedication to be effective.

Using things like spermicide, douches after sex, standing up during intercourse, coughing afterward, jumping up and down or not having an orgasm are not methods that work for the purposes of birth control, and are really not much fun either. So see your doctor if family planning or birth control is something you would like more info about.


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