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Do you interpretation of  your favorite movie scene

or chapter from a hot, steamy book.

Read Fifty Shades of Gray by E L Jamesanyone?

There are some super sexy ideas there!

Fifty Shades of Grey at SeaTac newsstand

Lipstick used to make a symbolic kiss.

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Kissing might be one of the most romantic things you can do. There is nothing better then that first kiss when you feel the zsa zsa zsu!

But did you know:

It helps prevent tooth decay. Kissing is nature’s cleaning process for your mouth. It stimulates saliva flow, decreases plaque and helps fight tooth decay.

It is great exercise too…and will help keep your facial muscles in shape.

Kissing can help your whole body to relax. Your breathing deepens, your stress level drops and tension levels decrease.

On average you burn about 1 calorie for every minute you kiss. The longer the better here – if you get serious about it, you might even be able to count it as a workout.

Olive oil from Imperia in Liguria, Italy.

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Oil-based lubricants include: vegetable oils (olive, corn, etc.), butters, and nut oils (avocado, peanut, etc.). Oil-based lubricants can be used both on the genitals and as massage lotions.

They may be safely applied externally on a wonan to the vulva, clitoris, and penis, and can be tolerated by many (guestimate is around 50%-50% of women) for use inside the vagina. Some people like to use them and can tolerate them in and around the anus too.

Oil-based lubes are safe to ingest during oral sex but they are not recommended by condom manufacturers as they can weaken the condom. The feel more greasy than slippery and may stain bed linens and clothing, requiring  a good soap and water wash.

NOTE: Vegetable oils can go rancid and can provide a medium for bacterial and yeast growth.

Silicone lubricants are a personal adaptation of more industrial silicone lubricants. Think WD-40 for the penis.

Slip ‘n Slide is a latex condom-compatible silicone lubricant with a non-sticky, silky texture. The long lasting formula is ideal for marathon lovemaking sessions and anal sex. As an added benefit, Slip ‘n Slide does not contain allergens or microbes that allow bacterial growth.

R recent studies have proven that pure silicone lubricant, like Slip ‘n Slide, is safe for use. The three ingredients that make up Slip ‘n Slide – cyclomethicone, dimethiconol and dimethicone – have all been approved by the Cosmetic, Toiletry and Fragrance Association (CTFA), the organization that regulates these products.

After use, the body should be cleansed with soap and water to prevent possible irritation.

Note: Silicone will not harm latex as petroleum-based lubricants will, but silicone-based lubricants can harm toys made from silicone or super soft flesh like materials.

By the way, Revelation lubricant has the feel of silicone, but is a water based lube! No wonder everyone likes that one best.

Most sex lubricants are water-based. They typically contain water; glycerine, a syrupy-sweet emulsifier; propylene glycol, which helps the product retain moisture; and a preservative, typically methyl paraben, propyl paraben, or grapefruit seed extract. Pictured above is my best selling lube, Revelation!

Water-based lubricants are safe for use on the vulva, clitoris, and penis, and in the vagina and anus. They do not stain bed linen or clothing. It’s also safe to ingest small amounts of water-based lubricants during oral sex. It is ok to use them with latex condoms or diaphragms too.

During extended lovemaking, water-based lubricants may dry out. You can apply more, or revive them with a little water or saliva. After sex, rinse water-based lubricants off with a warm, moist wash cloth.

Although water-based lubricants are safe, some of the ingredients might cause irritation or allergic reactions in sensitive individuals. Water-based lubricants work fine on the genitals, but they are not designed to be used as massage lotions on large expanses of skin. Many water-based lubricants claim to be “taste-free,” but that’s not quite true. Glycerine has a slightly sweet taste. Grapefruit seed extract often tastes slightly bitter. Some water-based lubricants come in different flavors to encourage playful use during oral sex.

Water-based lubricants can provide a medium for bacterial and yeast growth when they get too old, so changing them annually is recommended.

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A Sexam does not have to be a solo mission. If and when you are comfortable, this is also a great practice for you and your lover to try out as well. This is a great way for you can be sure he or she knows exactly what pleases you – no more excuses.

  • Make a rule to wait a couple of hours after the exam before you have sex. This allows you both to make the most of the exam’s educational benefits.
  • Follow the same suggestions as a solo exam, but take turns exploring.
  • Don’t touch one another at the same time. Each of you should focus solely on one another.
  • Communicate what feels good and what doesn’t.
  • Consider turning this into one of those fantasies, has anyone got a white coat and stethoscope?

Did you know the average American will eat 35,000 cookies in a lifetime. I figure you deserve to eat a cookie if you made it through your first sexam!

The average American woman spends 55 minutes per day getting showered, dressed, and groomed.  By now that sexam is sounding like a pretty good idea, right?

Female pelvic cavity

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No, this isn’t an exam you take with pencil and paper. The Sexam is short  for Sexological Exam.

Most women go through life having sex, periods, and giving birth without knowing what we look like “down there”. Would you be able to pick your vulva out in a line up? Now there is an interesting thought!

Why is this important? – A Sexam identifies what each part looks and feels like, so you can know for yourself and your partner what feels good to you. It will get you started on learning so much more about your body, how it responds, and help you guide your partner to your special pleasure spots. It is also a great baseline reference for you to have in case you wake up with a swollen bartholin gland one day, or even when you notice your first hemmorhoid.

The purpose of the exam is not to necessarily get you turned on… but that is not out of the realm of possibilities.

Your own private Sexam is your chance to develop your own personal roadmap to pleasure!


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