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Did you know that dolphins are the only mammals, other than humans, that seek sex for pleasure, not just procreation? What better introduction to our topic for today. Waterproof toys!

Waterproof toys are stimulating, relaxing and enjoyable during solo play or as an enhancement to partner sex… in or out of water. Enjoy in the bedroom, shower, bathtub, hot tub, or if you really

feel adventurous — some can even be used in the ocean.

 

Now is the perfect time to add some of Passion Parties’ waterproof toys to your collection. Let me tell you some of the choices in waterproof toys, where and how to use them and how to take care of them.

Got Lube?

As with any passion toy, the first essential to playtime is lubricant. Most lubricants are water-based and water

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soluble; meaning they are designed to wash away with water for easy clean up. That’s why 100% silicone lubricant won’t wash away when you need it the most and will keep its consistency much better than water-based lubes in the shower or hot tub. Just be sure not to use it on silicone toys.

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Petroleum-based lubricants are made from petroleum jelly, mineral oil, or petrolatum. These products include Vaseline® and baby oil.

Petroleum-based lubricants destroy latex and should never be used with condoms, diaphragms, or cervical caps.

In addition, petroleum lubricants should not be used inside the vagina. They are difficult to wash out, may irritate the vaginal lining, and change vaginal chemistry, increasing risk of infection.

They should not be ingested, and may cause allergic reactions. Finally, petroleum lubricants may stain linens and bedclothes. Despite these drawbacks, many couples still like petroleum-based lubricants, particularly for anal play.

NOTE: Both yeast and bacteria can grow in water and vegetable oils, but they cannot grow in mineral oil.

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Oil-based lubricants include: vegetable oils (olive, corn, etc.), butters, and nut oils (avocado, peanut, etc.). Oil-based lubricants can be used both on the genitals and as massage lotions.

They may be safely applied externally on a wonan to the vulva, clitoris, and penis, and can be tolerated by many (guestimate is around 50%-50% of women) for use inside the vagina. Some people like to use them and can tolerate them in and around the anus too.

Oil-based lubes are safe to ingest during oral sex but they are not recommended by condom manufacturers as they can weaken the condom. The feel more greasy than slippery and may stain bed linens and clothing, requiring  a good soap and water wash.

NOTE: Vegetable oils can go rancid and can provide a medium for bacterial and yeast growth.

Silicone lubricants are a personal adaptation of more industrial silicone lubricants. Think WD-40 for the penis.

Slip ‘n Slide is a latex condom-compatible silicone lubricant with a non-sticky, silky texture. The long lasting formula is ideal for marathon lovemaking sessions and anal sex. As an added benefit, Slip ‘n Slide does not contain allergens or microbes that allow bacterial growth.

R recent studies have proven that pure silicone lubricant, like Slip ‘n Slide, is safe for use. The three ingredients that make up Slip ‘n Slide – cyclomethicone, dimethiconol and dimethicone – have all been approved by the Cosmetic, Toiletry and Fragrance Association (CTFA), the organization that regulates these products.

After use, the body should be cleansed with soap and water to prevent possible irritation.

Note: Silicone will not harm latex as petroleum-based lubricants will, but silicone-based lubricants can harm toys made from silicone or super soft flesh like materials.

By the way, Revelation lubricant has the feel of silicone, but is a water based lube! No wonder everyone likes that one best.

Most sex lubricants are water-based. They typically contain water; glycerine, a syrupy-sweet emulsifier; propylene glycol, which helps the product retain moisture; and a preservative, typically methyl paraben, propyl paraben, or grapefruit seed extract. Pictured above is my best selling lube, Revelation!

Water-based lubricants are safe for use on the vulva, clitoris, and penis, and in the vagina and anus. They do not stain bed linen or clothing. It’s also safe to ingest small amounts of water-based lubricants during oral sex. It is ok to use them with latex condoms or diaphragms too.

During extended lovemaking, water-based lubricants may dry out. You can apply more, or revive them with a little water or saliva. After sex, rinse water-based lubricants off with a warm, moist wash cloth.

Although water-based lubricants are safe, some of the ingredients might cause irritation or allergic reactions in sensitive individuals. Water-based lubricants work fine on the genitals, but they are not designed to be used as massage lotions on large expanses of skin. Many water-based lubricants claim to be “taste-free,” but that’s not quite true. Glycerine has a slightly sweet taste. Grapefruit seed extract often tastes slightly bitter. Some water-based lubricants come in different flavors to encourage playful use during oral sex.

Water-based lubricants can provide a medium for bacterial and yeast growth when they get too old, so changing them annually is recommended.

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Age
Estrogen plays an important role in vaginal lubrication. Estrogen production begins to decline before menopause, and many women who had no trouble producing lubrication in their twenties and thirties notice decreased lubrication during their forties, when menopausal changes begin. After age fifty, many women experience persistent vaginal dryness.

The menstrual cycle
Because estrogen influences vaginal lubrication, women often produce different amounts of lubrication at different times of the month.

Childbirth
Again, because of hormonal fluctuations, some women have difficulty lubricating for a while after delivering a child.

Stress
Every kind of stress, from job hassles to relationship tensions can impair sexual response in both men and women. In men, the result may be erection impairment. In women, stress can reduce lubrication.

Drugs
Many, many over-the-counter and prescription medications decrease vaginal lubrication. Some women report that birth control pills reduce lubrication. Antihistamines, cold formulas, and other medicines that dry the mouth also impair lubrication. Alcohol is another lubrication inhibitor. Cigarettes and marijuana can have a similar effect. How is that making your weekend look?

Travel
Everyone knows that flying across time zones induces jet lag, but the pressurization and dry environment of the plane along with jet lag can interfere with lubrication.

Extended sex
Even women who produce a good deal of natural lubrication sometimes need more during extended sex.

Few people understand that some women don’t produce much natural lubrication, and that those who do may not under the circumstances above. Just as a man can love a woman deeply and not be able to raise an erection because of diabetes or heart disease, a woman can love a man and feel very turned on by him, yet be unable to produce much vaginal lubrication—especially after menopause, when vaginal dryness becomes common.

If you’re a woman who does not produce much natural lubrication, mention this to your lover. Tell him it’s no reflection on him, or on your feelings for him. It’s just the way you are—and it’s not a problem if you use a lubricant.

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Many Normal, Healthy Women Don’t Produce Much Vaginal Lubrication. In the 1960’s, pioneering sex researchers William Masters, M.D., and Virginia Johnson described vaginal lubrication as an early sign of women’s sexual arousal. They maintained that the vagina produces lubrication fairly quickly as women become aroused. But for many perfectly normal, healthy women, vaginal lubrication takes much longer to appear, and when it does, there may not be much of it. Why not?

Just as women’s heights vary, so does their production of vaginal lubrication. There is nothing wrong with women who don’t produce much. Some women just don’t self-lubricate very well. Women who become “too” lubricated may also feel abnormal, and suffer embarrassment about soaking the sheets. If this is an issue for you, try placing a towel or two under yourself.

There are also many other things that play a factor in natural lubrication levels. Pretty much anything that affects your hydration level, will also have an effect on your lubrication level.


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