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Besides being naughty and excited by the whole taboo thing,

There are lots of nerve endings that can make anal play pleasurable for both men and women. The prostate, the rectum and the rim of the anus are all rich sources of nerve endings. Gentle stimulation of these areas can be very pleasurable for both men and women if we are ready for it.

So if it is something you want to try…Talk to your partner about it. Find out their experiences, feelings and thoughts on the subject of back door play, anal exploration, sexual fantasies and such.

If your partner says no…

Have them check out this blog! I am here to help everyone explore their greatest fantasies and desires – pleasurewise. No doesn’t always mean no…but they many not know enough about how and why they would even want to try this yet.

Many women are embarrassed about anal play, some have been curious about it. There are just as many who have had very bad experiences in the past.

I always say that if the “oops I slipped” guy is your only experience with anal play, that absolutely positively does not count. Listen to the suggestions here, and maybe consider trying just one thing to see if you like it! The anus is rich in nerve endings, and some women can orgasm from the pelvic contractions combined with the excitement of anal play.

Likewise, men often seem to be overly eager to experiment with this new form of play, yet are concerned about the sexual orientation issue of being on the receiving end, and are pretty convinced that their partners would never consider anything back door anyway.

Talking to each other about your desires is the only way to go. You may have more in common than you think!

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Many men and women are curious about anal sex but are scared about comfort and safety issues. If you are curious, start slow and work toward the most satisfying ending you can. And of course all the previous rules of safety apply. Relax, communicate, lubricate, condom.

The rectum is not straight like the vagina. After entering the anus there is a short anal canal which connects the anus to the rectum.  The rectum tilts toward the front of the body for a few inches, then it curves back sharply — sometimes as much as 90 degrees. After a few more inches, it turns back toward the front of the body again.

A person can learn about the shape of his or her rectum by gently inserting a soft object, trying different angles and body positions and concentrating on how it feels. Make sure the object has a flared base so that if you lose your grip, it won’t slip into the rectum and become irretrievable.  I am sure you have heard those stories from friends who work in hospitals. As a retired nurse, I can tell you that most of them are true…so don’t be one of those statistics!

Position for Pleasure

• Try a variety of Positions for anal intercourse to see what suits you best.

• Side by side or spooning is often best for beginners. It Gives receiver the most control over penetration.

• Missionary man on top face to face Provides for more intimacy and easier communication for some.

• Rear entry or doggy style allows for deepest penetration. The anus is the most exposed, often making thrusting easier.

Diagram of the rectum and anus.

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When I refer to anal sex – anal play or back door play it includes a variety of acts which focus on the anal area> The anal area includes:

Anus – the external opening of the rectum.

Anal Canal –  connects the rectum to the anus

Rectum – the final 5-6 inches of the colon or large intestine

All of these are in the region of the back door.

Activities in that are can generally be classified into these areas:

  • External stimulation of the anus with fingers or toys ie fingering.
  • External stimulation of the anus orally or rimming
  • Anal Insertion of fingers, toys or penis into the rectum. This includes butt plugs and anal beads
  • Fisting  – not a topic we are going to cover. But involves inserting several fingers or fist into the anus and rectum.
  • Anal related Fetishes and insertion of more unusual objects. I am just going to mention these here…but we can discuss them in the future show so stay tuned for that!

OK, there we have it, our menu de jour for back door play! And I know what you are all thinking right now. Ladies, most of you are clenching tight – and guys, you are wondering if this makes you gay.  Well just relax!  That is the key – Really. Relax!

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