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Taking a break from your normal routine and experiencing your lover in a new way can not only bring back the fire of when you first got together, it’s also a great time to spice up your love life with sensual enhancements.

Persuading your partner to try a sex toy is similar to coaxing them into anything new – sexual or not. Change can be unsettling, but sexual changes can be even more so because intimacy is so loaded with emotion.

Some men and women both may feel that if their partner wants to try a toy, it means their abilities or equipment are not satisfying. Reassure them that they is irreplaceable. Toys don’t kiss, cuddle or take out the garbage. But the can be good for enhancing what is already good and introducing some variety and spice to your sex life to ad even more pleasure. And there is nothing wrong with that!

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Experience your lover in a new way no matter where you are. It can be as easy as turning your bedroom into a sexy boudoir with a fun or foreign theme, camping out (just the two of you) in your backyard under the stars, or as easy as checking into a hotel for the night.


A sensual enhancement, such as a toy or flavored lotions, is another option to help you spice up your love life and capture vacation sex all year long. It’s also the perfect time to explore your curiosities with more adventurous sex toys.


Having an open mind and good communication is key in any aspect of a relationship. If you have both of these elements already, you are limited only by your imagination.


Sexual enhancements are not limited to only physical pleasure. They can be used to explore intimacy, develop trust, learn about each others’ bodies, your likes and dislikes. This is one of the reasons why Passion Parties carries a wide range of products from romance to adventure.


No matter who you are, no matter your level of experience, there’s something for everyone

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Many Normal, Healthy Women Don’t Produce Much Vaginal Lubrication. In the 1960’s, pioneering sex researchers William Masters, M.D., and Virginia Johnson described vaginal lubrication as an early sign of women’s sexual arousal. They maintained that the vagina produces lubrication fairly quickly as women become aroused. But for many perfectly normal, healthy women, vaginal lubrication takes much longer to appear, and when it does, there may not be much of it. Why not?

Just as women’s heights vary, so does their production of vaginal lubrication. There is nothing wrong with women who don’t produce much. Some women just don’t self-lubricate very well. Women who become “too” lubricated may also feel abnormal, and suffer embarrassment about soaking the sheets. If this is an issue for you, try placing a towel or two under yourself.

There are also many other things that play a factor in natural lubrication levels. Pretty much anything that affects your hydration level, will also have an effect on your lubrication level.

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Well, it is hard to say exactly what normal is. Generally sexuality is considered normal as long as both partners are comfortable with their sexual and sensual routines, no one is being harmed and no one is caught breaking the law.

But here are a few benchmarks recorded in a survey of about 1800 women:

What position is best for you?

  • Him on top   35%
  • Me on top   35%
  • Doggie-style    22%
  • Spooning 3%
  • Other   5%

How long does sex last between you and your partner?

(Foreplay & Intercourse)

  • Less than 5 minutes   2%
  • Five to 15 minutes   17%
  • Fifteen to 30 minutes    38%
  • Thirty to 60 minutes   35%
  • Sixty minutes or more   8%
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No, this isn’t an exam you take with pencil and paper. The Sexam is short  for Sexological Exam.

Most women go through life having sex, periods, and giving birth without knowing what we look like “down there”. Would you be able to pick your vulva out in a line up? Now there is an interesting thought!

Why is this important? – A Sexam identifies what each part looks and feels like, so you can know for yourself and your partner what feels good to you. It will get you started on learning so much more about your body, how it responds, and help you guide your partner to your special pleasure spots. It is also a great baseline reference for you to have in case you wake up with a swollen bartholin gland one day, or even when you notice your first hemmorhoid.

The purpose of the exam is not to necessarily get you turned on… but that is not out of the realm of possibilities.

Your own private Sexam is your chance to develop your own personal roadmap to pleasure!

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Masturbation is only considered a problem if it inhibits sexual activity with a partner, is done in public, or causes significant distress to the person. It may cause distress if it is done compulsively and/or interferes with daily life and activities.

There can certainly be religious or cultural issues associated with masturbation…but we are not here to solve all the worlds problems today…just to get a little glimps of what the guys are up to this week!

As with women,  masturbation can actually improve a mans sexual satisfaction levels, and in turn, it can improve a relationship. By exploring your own body through masturbation, you can determine what is pleasing to you and can share this with your partner.

Sometimes partners use mutual masturbation to discover techniques for a more satisfying sexual relationship and to add to their mutual intimacy. More on that later! Now be sure to get excited waiting for it!!!

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