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Males under the age of forty are typically able to achieve an erection in less than ten seconds. 75% of men ejaculate within three minutes pf penetration.  The initial spurt of ejaculate travels at 28 miles per hour. By way of comparison, the world record for the 100 yard dash is 27.1 miles per hour.

Studies have shown that men become sexually aroused nearly every time they dream.

The two leading causes of temporary impotence are prolonged cigarette smoking and tight pants.

An unobstructed penis is capable of shooting semen anywhere from 12 to 24 inches.

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Kissing might be one of the most romantic things you can do. There is nothing better then that first kiss when you feel the zsa zsa zsu!

But did you know:

It helps prevent tooth decay. Kissing is nature’s cleaning process for your mouth. It stimulates saliva flow, decreases plaque and helps fight tooth decay.

It is great exercise too…and will help keep your facial muscles in shape.

Kissing can help your whole body to relax. Your breathing deepens, your stress level drops and tension levels decrease.

On average you burn about 1 calorie for every minute you kiss. The longer the better here – if you get serious about it, you might even be able to count it as a workout.

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By Pepper Schwartz, PhD

We are all obsessed with being “normal”—in fact, it’s quite, er, “normal.” In my book a behavior is normal as long as it won’t make you sick, isn’t sadistic, or get you arrested. It doesn’t have to be “average”—just within a range of human behavior that doesn’t doom all living things—including yourself. So, it’s “normal,” for example, to lose your temper. It’s not normal to torch your neighborhood (even though the thought may have entered your mind occasionally.)

What’s normal in a relationship? It’s more varied than you might think. Here’s a list of common relationship issues and behaviors that some experts will tell you are abnormal, but I believe are perfectly normal.

1. Long silences. Over time there is less that you have to say—you know your partner’s response!

2. The need for space. Only puppies want to be on top of each other—and they get tired of it too.

3. Thinking about something else during sex. Is there anyone who hasn’t, at least once, remembered they left the car windows open when the rain, and sex, started at the same time?

4. Thinking about the one “who got away.” Almost everyone has had a fantasy lover—either a real one that didn’t work out—or a movie star or some famous person who you dream about. There is that “What if…” thought that comes now and then.

5. Wanting to run away. Hey, life is sometimes just hellish or boring—or both. Or you feel underappreciated and over-worked. Sometimes you just want to chuck it all.

6. Being seriously annoyed at a partner’s habit(s). You are lucky if it’s just one habit. Most people have at least one thing about their partner they really can’t stand. For example: snoring, hygiene, sloppiness, or foot in mouth problems.

7. Giving out bad vibes to a friend of your partner who you wish would go away. Most good friendships are made, not inherited. There is usually at least one friend of your partner you hope will disappear.

8. Faking more sexual arousal than you are experiencing. Sometimes the mojo isn’t working; but you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. Good partners tend to be kind about this sort of thing—angry partners telegraph that, on the whole, they’d rather be quilting.

9. Not taking care of yourself. Everyone knows it’s important to stay fit and attractive, but it’s just so much work.

10. Lying. Maybe there are some long-term couples that have never told a lie to each other about anything—yes, conscious omissions count—but I wouldn’t make a money bet on that.

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An ancient Asian toy, ben-wa balls have been around for more than 1,000 years. They are intended to help awaken women sensuality and enhance the joy of their own sexual responsiveness, specifically by intensifying orgasm.

They are also known as Love Balls and Pleasure Balls. Ben Wa Balls were originally meant to provide the man with extra pleasure during intercourse but then it was apparent that Ben Wa Balls had a positive effect on the woman. The feeling of the balls floating freely in the vagina and constantly massaging the vaginal walls caused intense sexual arousal.

Aristocratic Chinese women were the first to experience the pleasures of Ben-Wa Balls. They inserted egg-shaped balls into their vagina and rocked their way to ecstasy as the weight of the balls shifted inside. Years ago they were filled with mercury, which did give additional stimulation, but had an adverse effect on longevity when they leaked.


  • Strengthens the muscles in the vagina and pelvic floor
  • Increase blood flow
  • Ultimately increase sensation, causing better, more powerful orgasms.
  • Helps women feel more in touch with their pelvic area
  • Assist in more sensation and enjoyment of sex

Here comes the science lesson! Does everyone know how to Kegel? If not…it is up next!

Women with hysteria under the effects of hypnosis.

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Dildos have always had a frankly sexual purpose, but vibrators are another story. For most of their history, they have been camouflaged, their sexual purpose hidden behind “massage therapy”. The first vibrators were developed 130 years ago to treat an illness called “female hysteria”.

The Greeks described a “suffering uterus” as Hysteria. Symptoms included anxiety, irritability, sexual fantasies, “pelvic heaviness” and excessive vaginal lubrication – in other words, sexual arousal.  Of course,  during the Victoria Era, women were not considered sexual beings. So, Physicians treated hysteria by massaging their patient’s clitoris until they experienced a relief through “paroxysm” also known as an orgasm. During the 1860’s, health spas offered high-tech alternatives to manual therapy; including water jets and steam-powered vibrating devices.

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According to the Kinsey Institute,

the biggest erect penis on record measures 13 inches.

The smallest tops off at 1 3/4 inches.

So do you measure up?

Flower's sexual parts

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An orgasm is an event — it is the culmination of the process of sexual excitement. In simple science terms, it is caused by the increase in blood flow and build-up of tension, pressure and excitement – and is generally followed by release of energy. It is actually a lot like a sneeze…you feel it, the build up and a-choo…the release! T

An orgasm can be both an emotional and a physical experience, and can feel differently depending on the circumstances. A variety of things like: if you are with a partner or not, your body cycle, or your mood that day, all contribute to how each  orgasm feels to you.

Some women may feel tightness, or pleasurable tension in and around your clitoris and vagina. You may also feel contractions that are regular, and rhythmic.  It can give you intense, full-body waves of pleasure, and also a feeling of relaxation. The important thing to remember about orgasms is that they vary enormously – from woman to woman, but also for the same woman from event to event.

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