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Males under the age of forty are typically able to achieve an erection in less than ten seconds. 75% of men ejaculate within three minutes pf penetration.  The initial spurt of ejaculate travels at 28 miles per hour. By way of comparison, the world record for the 100 yard dash is 27.1 miles per hour.

Studies have shown that men become sexually aroused nearly every time they dream.

The two leading causes of temporary impotence are prolonged cigarette smoking and tight pants.

An unobstructed penis is capable of shooting semen anywhere from 12 to 24 inches.


Walrus (Photo credit: Polar Cruises)

The walrus has the largest penis of any land animal, measuring 24.5 inches when erect. But Among primates, man has the largest and thickest penis.  The smallest erect human penis on record was 1 cm about half an inch. Long. According to the Kinsey Institute, the biggest erect penis on record measures 13 inches. The smallest tops off at 1 3/4 inches.


In general, showers are relaxing; but they can also be quite exciting –for instance – add your partner and a vibrating toy.

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Try this technique -vary the water temperature to find the combination that is the most exhilarating for you and your partner, like hot, then cold, and back to hot again, or any combination you can come up with. Enjoy exploring the way the water feels with vibrations on different parts of your bodies in relation to the temperature of the water. Our Velvet Curve is ideal for this kind of play! It is shaped kind of like a dental instrument and can hit all those nooks and crannies…


Bath Fun

The opportunities are endless for bath time fun, especially if you have a tub big enough for two.

Soak in a hot bath and let your toys help you relax.  Water carries the sound of vibrations — something to keep in mind if you have roommates or house guests. If you have a whirlpool, what a great time to run it!

Mineral oil bottle as sold in the U.S., front.

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Petroleum-based lubricants are made from petroleum jelly, mineral oil, or petrolatum. These products include Vaseline® and baby oil.

Petroleum-based lubricants destroy latex and should never be used with condoms, diaphragms, or cervical caps.

In addition, petroleum lubricants should not be used inside the vagina. They are difficult to wash out, may irritate the vaginal lining, and change vaginal chemistry, increasing risk of infection.

They should not be ingested, and may cause allergic reactions. Finally, petroleum lubricants may stain linens and bedclothes. Despite these drawbacks, many couples still like petroleum-based lubricants, particularly for anal play.

NOTE: Both yeast and bacteria can grow in water and vegetable oils, but they cannot grow in mineral oil.

Silicone lubricants are a personal adaptation of more industrial silicone lubricants. Think WD-40 for the penis.

Slip ‘n Slide is a latex condom-compatible silicone lubricant with a non-sticky, silky texture. The long lasting formula is ideal for marathon lovemaking sessions and anal sex. As an added benefit, Slip ‘n Slide does not contain allergens or microbes that allow bacterial growth.

R recent studies have proven that pure silicone lubricant, like Slip ‘n Slide, is safe for use. The three ingredients that make up Slip ‘n Slide – cyclomethicone, dimethiconol and dimethicone – have all been approved by the Cosmetic, Toiletry and Fragrance Association (CTFA), the organization that regulates these products.

After use, the body should be cleansed with soap and water to prevent possible irritation.

Note: Silicone will not harm latex as petroleum-based lubricants will, but silicone-based lubricants can harm toys made from silicone or super soft flesh like materials.

By the way, Revelation lubricant has the feel of silicone, but is a water based lube! No wonder everyone likes that one best.

Silver balls

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An ancient Asian toy, ben-wa balls have been around for more than 1,000 years. They are intended to help awaken women sensuality and enhance the joy of their own sexual responsiveness, specifically by intensifying orgasm.

They are also known as Love Balls and Pleasure Balls. Ben Wa Balls were originally meant to provide the man with extra pleasure during intercourse but then it was apparent that Ben Wa Balls had a positive effect on the woman. The feeling of the balls floating freely in the vagina and constantly massaging the vaginal walls caused intense sexual arousal.

Aristocratic Chinese women were the first to experience the pleasures of Ben-Wa Balls. They inserted egg-shaped balls into their vagina and rocked their way to ecstasy as the weight of the balls shifted inside. Years ago they were filled with mercury, which did give additional stimulation, but had an adverse effect on longevity when they leaked.


  • Strengthens the muscles in the vagina and pelvic floor
  • Increase blood flow
  • Ultimately increase sensation, causing better, more powerful orgasms.
  • Helps women feel more in touch with their pelvic area
  • Assist in more sensation and enjoyment of sex

Here comes the science lesson! Does everyone know how to Kegel? If not…it is up next!

Women with hysteria under the effects of hypnosis.

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Dildos have always had a frankly sexual purpose, but vibrators are another story. For most of their history, they have been camouflaged, their sexual purpose hidden behind “massage therapy”. The first vibrators were developed 130 years ago to treat an illness called “female hysteria”.

The Greeks described a “suffering uterus” as Hysteria. Symptoms included anxiety, irritability, sexual fantasies, “pelvic heaviness” and excessive vaginal lubrication – in other words, sexual arousal.  Of course,  during the Victoria Era, women were not considered sexual beings. So, Physicians treated hysteria by massaging their patient’s clitoris until they experienced a relief through “paroxysm” also known as an orgasm. During the 1860’s, health spas offered high-tech alternatives to manual therapy; including water jets and steam-powered vibrating devices.

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